Monday, April 2, 2012

The Function Level - Layer Alone, Layer with Another, Layer with Others

Each person’s character has different social and spiritual gifts that become more apparent when we function alone, with another, or within a group. For example, one may naturally connect and function with other people, whereas others might be at ease alone and feel uneasy with another person or a group. In each case, our need should surface so it can be apparent where to place our efforts to grow.
Layer Alone
Understanding ourselves when we are alone usually requires self-reflection. Often, we tap into our beliefs in spirituality or religion to reach an honest understanding of ourselves in order to handle and enjoy being alone. Regardless of our specific beliefs, I feel it is helpful to look at the past and present as learning lessons. These lessons should not interrupt or stunt our growth but rather inspire us to make adjustments to be more at peace during the times we are alone in the future.
Layer with Another
When it comes to functioning with another, communication is the priority. The more trust and respect we have for others, the better the communication will be for another. As a result, we can make the proper adjustments to function effortlessly and compassionately. But there are two halves to a whole, so both need to do their part in communicating if they want to build a loving relationship and function effortlessly.
Layer with Others
A few months passed from my first conversation with “the young lady on the park bench.” She later invited me to a gathering with a group of her friends. I sensed she was a little worried about how I might function in a social setting, even though she enjoyed my company in the one-on-one setting. She knew it had been a while since I had been to any event of this kind, because I was so entrenched in the beginning stages of this book. When I arrived, I felt blessed and even a bit surprised at my ability to feel the social energy of the group and function pleasingly with others.
How one might function in a social group opposed to a one-on-one setting can be drastically different. Functioning in a group is intuitive to most of us, but too many times, our intuitions are buried under our insecurities. However, the more secure we feel, the less we will be intimidated by the energy that surrounds us as we enter any room, whether it is a vacant one, a dining room, a living room, or the universe in which we live.

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