The Stability Level - Physical Layer, Emotional Layer, Resource Layer

If a shelf has to support five pounds, it needs to be stable enough to hold the given weight, just as a parent who has five kids has to have the physical, emotional, and resource stability to be substantial enough to support the given weight of the children. Achieving the right balance gives us the possibility of setting a solid foundation so we can function on all levels, thus having the capability to not only support ourselves but ultimately also support others. Building the layers of physical and emotional stability makes it possible for us to obtain the resources needed for us to survive and grow.

Physical Layer

I have been blessed to be close to some great teachers, healers, trainers, and mentors. Looking at these “greats,” I’ve found a common practice of assessing the intake of a person’s energy to diagnose what is needed to help. I later realized that, out of these “greats,” the wisest ones never overlooked the power of non-material energy and how it might eventually affect one physically. As a result, our emotions affect our actions, and our actions affect our health, strength, and overall physical stability.

Emotional Layer

Our emotional stability can clearly affect our relationships with ourselves and others, as well as our ability to use all of the tools we are given. It first starts with trusting that we are in a safe place to share our emotions. The more courage we have to honestly admit to what is making us feel emotionally stable or unstable, the more solid we will feel about the direction any relationship might take.

Along the way, we need to value the weight of our criticism, hoping it will serve as a way towards actions to build strength. As a result, we will be able to determine the truth of any other outside critic than ourselves.

Reflecting on my own efforts to find the truth, so much came from what was felt in the silence, both when I was around others and with myself. When this silence was “golden,” I have created a better level of emotional stability.

Resource Layer

In efforts to maintain the stability of our character, it is important not to overlook the resources needed to help us be physically and emotionally stable. Sometimes, it’s money, time, food, drink, shelter, or people to help. The list can go on. But I feel it starts by building on what we are naturally given, as well as using the many tools that can help us survive, grow, and heal.

I’ve been around a fair amount of financially wealthy people in my life. The ones I’ve most respected were the ones who taught me two things: (1) Always work at becoming resourceful and stable on other levels than just financial wealth, and (2) Use the resources we are naturally given to help others, as well as ourselves, to achieve stability in their own processes of creation and growth.

At times, some of these financially stable people have come face-to-face with death. At these times, many of them made it clear to me that, although their financial wealth gave them choices, they could not control the outcomes of their choices.

There are infinite amounts of resources out there that can be built on. It’s just a matter of choosing the right one at the right time. But we are all blessed to have the greatest natural resource that is needed for everything to be stable — love.